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Originally posted by PDOUBLEOP
Start on the outside of her clothes. You'll be able to get her plenty worked up from there. Don't go straight for the hoochie, work around it for a while and occasionally brush against it as if by accident. Teasing her by "beating around the bush" and not attacking her box will get her going more from the anticipation. Just don't go poking around like you're trying to shove you're finger in a play-doh can. Don't force your hand down her pants. If her pants are tight, don't even try it with them on cause all you'll do is hurt her. If you have to, work from the outside. Start off with your hand flat like you're just rubbing on it, then once it's lubed up a little start working fingers in slowly. Remember to keep your hand relaxed and be gentle (until she tells you different). Most of all, stay calm and don't be in a hurry. If she's new to it also, she'll feel more comfortable and make the experience better for both of you
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As crass as the phrasing is, he's making the right point here. start on the outside of her clothes. The vagina is an incredibly pressure sensative organ, and even slight pressure on her crotch will be felt.
Sliding your hand down her chest and over her crotch would be my recomendation, taking your time and slowly drawing your fingertips from her neck on down. Touch is incredibly erotic and very important to anyones sexuality. I always thought of fingering as something that came after one was comfortable with her shirt off and both had somelevel of comfort with each others tops off in my youth.
Start on the outside of her clothes with your four fingers flat over the area of her vagina and massage the area in gental circular motions.
At the time when she has indicated a comfort level with your hand down her pants, fingering is not the objective. rather, clitoral stimulation is. If you have never massaged a woman before, there is no shame in asking her to help place your hand where she wants it.
Siting or standing behind her while reaching down her frontside to her crotch typically provides the most comfortable position for a man. Again using a single finger you want to massage her clit in a gental circular manner, using her body language as your guide to your pace and rythm. Pay attention to her breath and the pressure of herleaning back against you as she relaxes. both are very important ques to the speed at which you massage her. You increased pace should be based on this.
If and when you feel comfortable or she asks you, slide your hand below her clitoris and use a single digit to explore her vagina. Do not immediatly try to place your finger in her, but rather get the "lay of the land" so to speak. Understand where everything is and leave no area un-touched by your fingertip in an effort to beter understand her body. If and when you feel there is suficiant lubrication you can attempt to slide your fingertip into her. Using both hands, one massaging her clitoris while the other explores her vagina is a plus here. Start slow and never place more than a little into her at a time. Use the joints in your finger as mental guides if you want. start by only placing your finger in to the first joint then drawing it out repaetdly in a slow rythm, as always using her body language as your guide to the speed she feels comfortable with. Slowly work your way to the second joint, and so on.
As a side not you might want to trtaste your fingers afer they've been inside her if you've never tasted the scent of a womans vagina. it's something you should be real familiar with the taste of.
And because we have to ask since this is an adult forum, how old are you?