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The need to be in a relationship that some people exhibit often has little to do with the party in question actually wanting a relationship, and much more to do with issues of co-dependence and lack of self confidence.
Very often in our western society, both sexes are taught from infancy that happiness comes from marriage and relationships. this message is repeatedly delivered to people of all ages in many forms from media to parental teaching, often in subtle form.
This belief is often taken as a mantra by both sexes, who begine to define their self worth by their relationship status.
The fact is that if you cannot be happy with yourself, feel content with yourself, and know yourself as an indivigual, then you never know what it is you want and need from another because you do not yet know yourself.
In a society where both genders are begining puberty and maturation at an earlier age, this has emerged as a character trait the physcological profesion is aware of and studying. Just as children in middle school who are experiancing puberty (6th grade is now the average age of puberty) often begin to form social structures based on sexual and emotional experimentation, and the child who has a "girlfreind" or "boyfreind" (why i use the qoutation marks i hope is obvious) in such a scenario is often looked upon with respect by his or her peers. So to are young men and women defining themselves by their relationship status both as a definition they view themselves with and as the definition of how thier peers view them.
Couple with this that often people do not truly know themselves and are not comfortable with who they are, and often they will fill this viod with a relationship or emotional attachment and you may have the beginings of an explanation to your question.
Hope I've given at least a little of the physcological imperative and motivation as food for thought.
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-Nanofever
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