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Originally posted by Mr.Deflok
No but seriously, you're right, acts of kindness are the best revenge, I love it when they come back to you and say how awfully sorry they are about what they did.
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If they do bad for you and you repay it with good to them, you're providing positive reinforcement for improper behavior, which is quite possibly the worst possible thing to do. Save the positive reinforcement for when they do something good, and remember to give it out when it is deserved.
In theory, "turning the other cheek" should work, but it based on an inherent assumption that people are basically good and only do wrong to others thru ignorance or miscommunication. From what I've seen in my life, the inherent assumption is fatally flawed. Humans are not as far above animals as they think themselves and are (more often than not) selfish, self-centered, and apathetic to the suffering of others except when it serves their purpose.
Reward good behavior, punish bad.