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Lebell · 04-30-2003, 03:21 PM

You have two completely seperate things going on here that need to be kept seperate.

First, you have your marriage which you have to make a discisioin on. Then you have the issue of your friend and a relationship with her.

On your marriage, just ask yourself how will you feel in 20 years looking back at whatever descision you make. Go with the descision that yeilds the best results. It it's to stay, work your ass off to do so. If it's to leave, do it and know that the pain will ease with time and you'll be better off.

With your friend, bottom line is she's married. You can try to anticipate her leaving her husband, but until the papers are stamped by a judge, DON'T BET ON IT. My advice is that you need to back off of a relationship with her NOW. If you both get divorced, then you can look at a fresh start together, but until then, don't do it!

I hope things work out for you.

04-30-2003, 03:21 PM	#2 (permalink)
Lebell Cracking the Whip Location: Sexymama's arms...	You have two completely seperate things going on here that need to be kept seperate. First, you have your marriage which you have to make a discisioin on. Then you have the issue of your friend and a relationship with her. On your marriage, just ask yourself how will you feel in 20 years looking back at whatever descision you make. Go with the descision that yeilds the best results. It it's to stay, work your ass off to do so. If it's to leave, do it and know that the pain will ease with time and you'll be better off. With your friend, bottom line is she's married. You can try to anticipate her leaving her husband, but until the papers are stamped by a judge, DON'T BET ON IT. My advice is that you need to back off of a relationship with her NOW. If you both get divorced, then you can look at a fresh start together, but until then, don't do it! I hope things work out for you. __________________ "Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." – C. S. Lewis The ONLY sponsors we have are YOU! Please Donate!