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rockzilla · 01-27-2004, 01:08 PM

Okay, not exactly, but here's the story.

My best friend "S" started going out with this girl about 2 months ago. Since then, he's been damn near impossible to get a hold of, which I understand fully, being that his GF provides him with things that his male friends can't (or won't). But what gets me is that half the times that we make plans together, he's nowhere to be found (and he doesn't think to call and cancel our plans), and when we do actually get together, there's an inevitable 45 minute phone call from the GF, which he tries to get out of by telling her he's got people over, but that just seems to upset her, leading to him trying to calm her down while the rest of us politely ignore the conversation.
I've met the girl a few times, and done my best to be nice to her, either she's really shy and introverted, or she just doesn't like us (myself, and the rest of S's friends), I think it's a bit of both.
S tells me that her last boyfriend was pretty distant (emotionally), which explains why she's so clingy with him. He really cares about this girl, and I don't want to make it look like I'm trying to get in the way, but what I'd like to know is if there's any way to get him to make her understand that S has other friends and that we deserve at least a little bit of his time?

01-27-2004, 01:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
rockzilla Junkie Location: The Kitchen	She's Kidnapped my Best Friend! Okay, not exactly, but here's the story. My best friend "S" started going out with this girl about 2 months ago. Since then, he's been damn near impossible to get a hold of, which I understand fully, being that his GF provides him with things that his male friends can't (or won't). But what gets me is that half the times that we make plans together, he's nowhere to be found (and he doesn't think to call and cancel our plans), and when we do actually get together, there's an inevitable 45 minute phone call from the GF, which he tries to get out of by telling her he's got people over, but that just seems to upset her, leading to him trying to calm her down while the rest of us politely ignore the conversation. I've met the girl a few times, and done my best to be nice to her, either she's really shy and introverted, or she just doesn't like us (myself, and the rest of S's friends), I think it's a bit of both. S tells me that her last boyfriend was pretty distant (emotionally), which explains why she's so clingy with him. He really cares about this girl, and I don't want to make it look like I'm trying to get in the way, but what I'd like to know is if there's any way to get him to make her understand that S has other friends and that we deserve at least a little bit of his time?