HFrankenstein

[edit]Sorry, didn't read the whole thread. Glad to see you did the right thing. Still, read my post. You might learn a thingertoo.[/edit]

At the very least, you've learned not to talk about your significant other in writing for all the world to see. A lesson well learned.

That said, to me, your current relationship seems to have gotten the kiss of death. Sure, it will look like you've worked through the problem eventually, but in reality, she'll most likely, judging from her apparent self-confidence issues, have to resort to simply hiding her feelings on the issue, which will ultimately lead to resentment, and that's never good.

If you're willing to stay in a doomed relationship, go for it, but I strongly recommend against letting it go much further. It'll only make the inevitable breakup that much harder.

There's another lesson to be learned from this, and it's a sad one: to wit, relationships are built on lies and secrecy. Okay, maybe it's not quite that extreme, but it gets the point across. This point being, no person should/wants to know everything about his/her partner's past. This does not only apply to the obvious sexual stuff (NO guy wants to know who else has been in there). This also applies to past emotional and lifestyle issues (attempted suicides, drug abuse, etc.)

There are, of course, plenty of things that are perfectly okay to know about, even advisable. Long-since remedied life-threatening illness; death of a parent/sibling; ran over the neighbors cat and never ever ever told anybody; etc.

Anyway, summing up, your girl clearly has some self-confidence problems. Even if this situation hadn't surfaced, people with negative self-images simply aren't fit for serious relationships, so you guys were doomed from the start anyway. In the off chance that she is not actually like this, this incident was the death card anyway. Sorry, Dorito2. Better luck next time, I guess.

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