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01-14-2004, 02:23 PM

What guys want/need to hear is honesty. sincere, kind honesty, though.
TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL- or else this will just keep going on. Don't blame him- he obviosuly doesn't know if you haven't come out and plainly told him.
Guys don't get the message unless you tell them. All they get are mixed signals, and they don't know what to do about it.
My husband & I used to be this way and things were not good- but then we let out everything in a respectful manner and things got better. I realized that it wasn't him- it was me. I wasn't communicating with him- I was assuming by the tone of my voice, or little innuendos that he would get that something was bothering me, but never solves anything. Once I started changing my perspective and doing what I can to help the situation, and realizing that I love him for who he is- then things got better.
Honesty & communication matters!
Sounds like he is trying to say what you want to hear, don't accuse him of that- but you need to communicate with him your feelings or you will just keep letting it build up and that will indefinately damage your relationship.
((hugs))

01-14-2004, 02:23 PM	#11 (permalink)
:::OshnSoul::: Guest	What guys want/need to hear is honesty. sincere, kind honesty, though. TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL- or else this will just keep going on. Don't blame him- he obviosuly doesn't know if you haven't come out and plainly told him. Guys don't get the message unless you tell them. All they get are mixed signals, and they don't know what to do about it. My husband & I used to be this way and things were not good- but then we let out everything in a respectful manner and things got better. I realized that it wasn't him- it was me. I wasn't communicating with him- I was assuming by the tone of my voice, or little innuendos that he would get that something was bothering me, but never solves anything. Once I started changing my perspective and doing what I can to help the situation, and realizing that I love him for who he is- then things got better. Honesty & communication matters! Sounds like he is trying to say what you want to hear, don't accuse him of that- but you need to communicate with him your feelings or you will just keep letting it build up and that will indefinately damage your relationship. ((hugs)) Last edited by :::OshnSoul:::; 01-14-2004 at 02:30 PM..