With all the younger ones posting about how to get a date, and when to ask someone out, it made me think about some of my failures in dating. Now I was rejected plenty of times, but only once was it the most flat out 100%, no chance in hell type and I think this might be a good place to share some of those stories.
Mine was sophomore year in college. Now I wasn't the best at getting the girls back then, I hadn't figured out the tricks (and there are tricks) to make a girl interested in me. Now what I would do in the big sophomore classes was find some attractive female who was sitting alone and try to sit next to them, without being obvious, hoping I could strike up a conversation. I had been doing this with one girl in the biology 111 class and it was working out pretty well. We would talk together, walking to our next class about whatever, and she would save a seat for me next to her. This being an 800 student class with about 1200 seats meant she was being more then just nice to save me one in a crowded room.
Well it was Friday night and my fraternity was having a party that Saturday and I figured I would finally ask her out and move it up a notch. The lecture that Friday was on evolution, a subject I've always been very good at, and I didn't notice anything odd with her during the lecture (I think you see where this is going). Well we are walking out like we always do and shes a lot more quiet then normal. Well being that I'm working up the nerve to ask her to this dance, I didn't quite notice the signs which say TROUBLE written all over her face. Just about the time I get the nerve up to ask she blurts out 'Do you believe
any of that!'. Now me being oblivious still ask her 'believe any of what?', since I didn't know to which 'that' she was referring to. She presses on 'That lecture!' in a tone that said 'How could you be so stupid as to have to ask what!'. So I'm still totally confused and now aware there is something wrong but oblivious to what asked 'what about it?'. Now she is frustrated with me and says 'That evolution stuff!'. I was a bit perplexed, I'd been to catholic school for about 3/4ths my education, and in all that time I'd never ran into someone who denied the theory of evolution, nor did I know any one personally who did. I knew OF these people, but surely these people wouldn't be attending a big 10 university as a biology major of all things. So my reflexive reaction was the ever so eloquent, 'well yea', said in such a way to invoke my own confusion of her asking me. You would think I had the clue here, but alas I didn't. After my 'well yea' we walked a bit more in silence, and my brain (the small one) decided to get back to the asking her to the party bit. Well I got as far as 'My fraternity is having a party on Saturday, would y...' which at that point was responded to in the most abrupt and forceful "
NO" I have ever received to this day. I never spoke to her again.
This wasn't a painful rejection, and obviously it never would have worked out, especially if she was religious enough not to put out
, but it was the most through and definitive rejection I've had in dating, or anything else for that matter.