Ustwo

With all the younger ones posting about how to get a date, and when to ask someone out, it made me think about some of my failures in dating. Now I was rejected plenty of times, but only once was it the most flat out 100%, no chance in hell type and I think this might be a good place to share some of those stories.

Mine was sophomore year in college. Now I wasn't the best at getting the girls back then, I hadn't figured out the tricks (and there are tricks) to make a girl interested in me. Now what I would do in the big sophomore classes was find some attractive female who was sitting alone and try to sit next to them, without being obvious, hoping I could strike up a conversation. I had been doing this with one girl in the biology 111 class and it was working out pretty well. We would talk together, walking to our next class about whatever, and she would save a seat for me next to her. This being an 800 student class with about 1200 seats meant she was being more then just nice to save me one in a crowded room.

Well it was Friday night and my fraternity was having a party that Saturday and I figured I would finally ask her out and move it up a notch. The lecture that Friday was on evolution, a subject I've always been very good at, and I didn't notice anything odd with her during the lecture (I think you see where this is going). Well we are walking out like we always do and shes a lot more quiet then normal. Well being that I'm working up the nerve to ask her to this dance, I didn't quite notice the signs which say TROUBLE written all over her face. Just about the time I get the nerve up to ask she blurts out 'Do you believe any of that!'. Now me being oblivious still ask her 'believe any of what?', since I didn't know to which 'that' she was referring to. She presses on 'That lecture!' in a tone that said 'How could you be so stupid as to have to ask what!'. So I'm still totally confused and now aware there is something wrong but oblivious to what asked 'what about it?'. Now she is frustrated with me and says 'That evolution stuff!'. I was a bit perplexed, I'd been to catholic school for about 3/4ths my education, and in all that time I'd never ran into someone who denied the theory of evolution, nor did I know any one personally who did. I knew OF these people, but surely these people wouldn't be attending a big 10 university as a biology major of all things. So my reflexive reaction was the ever so eloquent, 'well yea', said in such a way to invoke my own confusion of her asking me. You would think I had the clue here, but alas I didn't. After my 'well yea' we walked a bit more in silence, and my brain (the small one) decided to get back to the asking her to the party bit. Well I got as far as 'My fraternity is having a party on Saturday, would y...' which at that point was responded to in the most abrupt and forceful "NO" I have ever received to this day. I never spoke to her again.

This wasn't a painful rejection, and obviously it never would have worked out, especially if she was religious enough not to put out , but it was the most through and definitive rejection I've had in dating, or anything else for that matter.

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SVT01Cobra

Ouch.

I got rejected in Elementary school once... more than once actually. I'd ask the same girl out about every week.

chrisg299

Dang...what can you do? some girls are pretty damn unreadable, you think they dig you and then they totally don't :-/ a weird game if you ask me :-P

:-D Those were the days ::sighs:: lol You could hang and flirt with all the girls you could want and not one of em would care because they were all pretty oblivious at that age : P lol good times

MSD

"You're a really nice guy, and you'd be on the top of my list if I wasn't a lesbian."

Haven't seen her since ...

anleja

"We can still be friends. Do you want me to mail you the CDs you let me borrow?"

wilbjammin

I wanted this girl forever... she helped tow me along for a long time. She liked that kind of attention (I found out later that she kept a list of guys that "fell in love with her" as she called it...). So, I really cared about her, and she seemed to really care about me, but I was scared about taking that step to asking her to be with me. Well, not being one for subtlety, I wrote her 10 poems and printed them out on nice cloud paper (she likes clouds) and put them in plastic cover sheets in a binder for her. Then I asked her out.

She turned me down, despite all of that.

After spending the rest of the year of trying to figure out why and forge some kind of supportive relationship (she made it sound like she couldn't be in a relationship with anyone) I gave up. When she figured that out, then next time she saw me when I was throwing out my trash in a crappy quad I was living in she ran off crying explosively.

...Regrets?

It all worked out for the best, I'm with a much better person now.

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wilbjammin

are you saying that she wouldn't go out with you, but when she found out that you stopped trying to get her to she ran away crying?!? that makes no sense! she must have been messed up. you are better off without her.

grouchie

I don't have rejection stories
I never had the balls to ask anyone out unless i was pretty much assured a yes.

though, I've got the "if i just had balls stories"

chick I liked, hung out with her for a long time, flirted like crazy, all the usual stuff.
could never bring myself to ask her out because i always felt she was out of my league (plus i've got the huge fear of rejection which haunts me to this day).
so, i start dating this other chick when my friends start telling me things like "she said if you came over to her place this evening she'd f'k yer brains out"
(highschool.... that was what love was back then, a good roll in the hay and then you take her to taco bell for Mt Dew and a burrito lol)
ahhh, if I only had courage, I could have dissapointed so many more women in my life

silenced

I was rejected by this girl I knew for awhile because I was "too nice of a guy". yea that almost makes sense. eh better off without someone like that anyways.

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wilbjammin

Yes, that's exactly what I'm saying! I'm way better off without her!!

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Radio Monk33

Um I've keen kinda rejected in that once I asked out a girl, but she never thought of me "in that way" and thought I just meant as a friend. And then I felt so awkward about it later that I never did follow up on it, partially just because I felt embarassed and would prefer to pretend it never happened.

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Halx

So, like, the Winter Ball was coming up. Geeky ol' me gathered up the courage to ask the most beautiful girl I knew to the dance. She said YES! Wow.. cool!

Well, the next day, I was so excited. I had my dad's new digital camera with me 'cause I needed to take a picture for a project I was working on, but I pointed the camera at her and she totally shied away. I had fun playing with it with the rest of my friends in the class, but I had no idea about what I had just done.

She tought I was a crazy stalker dude and turned me down the next day.

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Pragma

Ow, that really sucks Halx. No use trying to explain it to her? Sounds like it wasn't that big of a loss, if she insantly assumed you were a stalker, though.

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Spinach_Indeed

There was this girl I had a thing for, for several years. I talked about asking her out several times but never actually got enough courage to ask her. One time, a bunch of us were at Diary Queen, sitting at 2-3 different tables. One of my friends got tired of me moaning about how I would never ask her out, that she stood up and walked up to the object of my affection and asked her out for me.

Maybe it was just paranoia, or panic.. but I thought she said No. So I started yelling. "Don't start that! I didn't ask her out! Karen (the friend) is just being stupid! I don't want any rumors started!"

One of the stupidest things I've done. Not only was it mildly insulting (not on purpose), but come to find out, she said Yes. I apologized later and asked if she would still want to go with me. She said she would, but she didn't want any rumors to be started. She then smirked, and walked away.

Spinach <---- Dummy.

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im just a girl

i had a huge crush on a guy i went to high school with. he was perfect... played guitar, loved music, and was funny as hell. being the shy little sophomore i was, i hadnt really caught on to the whole dating process yet, and needless to say him being a senior about to graduate and totally unaware of who i was, his response to my crush wasnt positive. fortunately, through some weird twist of fate, we recently became very close friends. and yes, he's still beautiful and perfect and i still have the hots for him 3 years later. *le sigh* perhaps things will work out the second time around.