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The biggest problem I see here is that you are over extending yourself doing for him in the hopes that he'll revert back to honeymoon style courtship behaviors.
I'm here to tell you that not only will that not work but that down the road it's going to backfire on you big time.He's asked you to marry him in part because of all the awesome things you do for him,over time,if you're keeping a scorecard you're going to grow resentful and increasingly unhappy,you're going to stop doing all those awesome things and he's going to be like"wtf?"
Women marry a man in hopes that they can change him,men marry a woman and hope that she doesn't change.
My advice? do extras for him only when you can do them purely out of the desire to please him,with his pleasure being the only expected reward.If he is showing you a pattern of not being as thoughtful or considerate of you and whatever needs you've expressed clearly to him as you'd like on a regular basis,think long and hard about marrying him as he's showing you who he is and marriage won't change that.
Btw,even in the most romantic couples,the honeymoon period ends and then starts the real work of bringing 2 lives together.You can however negotiate for romantic behaviors on occasions that are important to you ie: your birthday or other milestone days.
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