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Harshaw · 12-30-2003, 02:54 PM

Don't fall into the too shy, too afraid of rejection trap. I've been there, it took me 7 years to break out of that hell. I had several chances to date really cool girls, and I missed them all. Now at 24, this is one of the biggest regrets of my life. You are still really young, the sooner you break out of this mindset, the happier you will be. Its a slow road to recovery, I know. I think the advice of taking things slow is a very good idea.. but make sure you are doing something about it. Hold her hand, put your arm around her, kiss her hello/goodbye. But for the love of God make a move!

Don't worry too much about rejection, there is a chance it will happen. Rejection is very common in this sort of thing, it is something almost everyone faces at some point. But it may not happen, and something very nice will. Trust me, seven years from now, the pain of not acting will be much greater than the momentary pain of rejection.

12-30-2003, 02:54 PM	#6 (permalink)
Harshaw Is mad at you. Location: Bored in Sacramento	Don't fall into the too shy, too afraid of rejection trap. I've been there, it took me 7 years to break out of that hell. I had several chances to date really cool girls, and I missed them all. Now at 24, this is one of the biggest regrets of my life. You are still really young, the sooner you break out of this mindset, the happier you will be. Its a slow road to recovery, I know. I think the advice of taking things slow is a very good idea.. but make sure you are doing something about it. Hold her hand, put your arm around her, kiss her hello/goodbye. But for the love of God make a move! Don't worry too much about rejection, there is a chance it will happen. Rejection is very common in this sort of thing, it is something almost everyone faces at some point. But it may not happen, and something very nice will. Trust me, seven years from now, the pain of not acting will be much greater than the momentary pain of rejection. __________________ This too shall pass.