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here's what i see is likely the cause.
as much as i think it's stupid to say that people are above and below other, in the dating game people often use social comparison to determine who would be a suitable match, who is too far above them to even bother trying to obtain, and who is too far below them to be worth it.
you would be more likely to try to get sex without any sort of promise of commitment, etc. from a woman who you thought was below you. and if you are making accurate social comparisons, this woman would be the more likely woman to be interested in a relationship with you, because you would make a good match, as you would be an upward pairing for her.
at the same time, if you saw a woman who you thought would be likely to be out of your league, you would be likely to treat her well and try to keep you, while she may be likely to not want anything to do with you. i'm not saying this happens on a conscious level or anything, but it may explain why the same women you treat well are the women who don't care and why the women you don't treat well are the women who do care.
i know this wouldn't nessecarily apply to everyone, but it would likely apply to most pairings and could be the cause for the relationship between your effort and the desire the women show.
i hope that makes sense....
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