I am/was happy either way being alone or in a relationship. One thing I have learned is that a relationship is one of giving, but not in the material way.
I used to try way too hard, instead of first trying to understand who I was and what it was I wanted and needed, both for myself and from a partner.
During one phase is was just sex, because I wasn't, pardon the term, getting any...so I would just look or be receptive to anyone one that was willing to GIVE IT.
As I evolved emotionally in my thinking, I learned that I wanted was to be better and was better than that, and a process of improvement of self came next. And I was no longer on the HUNT, I was just happy being myself and the things I was doing and accomplishing for myself.
Fine...BUT I needed more...
I asked for help, and got it by listening to others, and here comes a break through at least for me, I followed through.
I knew who I was, what I wanted, wasn't on the prowl, but searching actively of a mate who felt the say as I did about life.
I was confident, happy, secure, and willing to compromise on some of thing I believed to be true.
And now, because of this journey I have found, and they found me, a mate that embodies all the virtues that are dear to me, we are growing together and life for me has now come full circle because of what I have learned, expressed needed and wanted.
You'll figure it out
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it took me 42 years, but finally got it!