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It's the confidence thing. I'm sure someone here can explain it better than I can, but here's my simplistic understanding...
By instinct, choice or both...women want a man with a backbone and a pair of balls. They want someone who wants to wear the daddy pants, and can do so comfortably. They don't like being worshipped...the ones that are chased after have been there and done that, and it puts ones that aren't chased after into confusion and/or defensiveness. Most would rather be treated like objects than deities...
...which leads us to the real tricky part. Sometimes, when we treat them with a little too much "honesty, love, and just being sweet,"(especially the latter and not so much the former) they think we're just supplicating. They don't want to be the pillar of stability while we go about our business without any cojones, so they blow us off.
Assholes don't have to worry about skirting that line, although they have problems of their own.
There are varying philosophies on your last point. Some think it's a not extremely uncommon masochistic desire to seek an abusive partner. The "ladder theory" types just resign themselves to bitterness and loss. Basically, just come to grips with the fact that attraction doesn't work like our mothers and kindergarten teachers told us it does and open your mind to new ideas.
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