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raeanna74 · 12-23-2003, 08:52 PM

Half the time we only tolerate the in-laws. Hubby finds my famil extremely irritating and I don't blame him even though it doesn't bother me as much. That's only because I'm used to it. Hubby still goes to our celebrations. There isn't the different religion question in our situation but there is the distaste that hubby has for my family. Get gets along and that's about it - he does have some good times with my bro but my bro punched in once, two weeks before our wedding.

I think - if you want this relationship to stay strong you are gonna half to go. You don't have to do much for presents since you don't normally celebrate this anyway. Just get something for Mom and Pop inlaw and make it simple. Try to be thoughtful but don't try to outspend the other boyfriend. I have a feeling - judging from sis' dating habits that mom and pop won't think too much of an expensive gift and will appreciate a thoughtful one. I don't know what their interests are but some suggestions could be - buy mom a nice centerpiece for the dinner table. Present it to her when you arrive and say "Merry Christmas" here's your present early. That way she recognises it for what it is. You could get special points for that move. Ask your girlfriend to help you find something that isn't just plain old spendy. You can outdo without outspending. You will get some of the biggest points from your girlfriend for doing this. If it is just too distressing it won't hurt to let her know that you hesisted going because you were afraid of competeing with sis' boyfriend but that you went because you knew it meant so much to her. I would be willing to bet you get a big kiss (or more) for that one. Then Take your own pillow with and tough it out. It is just one night.

Hubby is even going to brave the real tree that my parents stupidly insisted on even though every one of us hubby, daughter, and I have miserable allergies to them. That's toughing it. Good Luck - I hope you can enjoy the time. If sis' boy gives more gifts don't sweat it. Everyone knows what your gift giving holiday is - they better not criticise.

edit: sorry so long. I ramble too much.

12-23-2003, 08:52 PM	#10 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	Half the time we only tolerate the in-laws. Hubby finds my famil extremely irritating and I don't blame him even though it doesn't bother me as much. That's only because I'm used to it. Hubby still goes to our celebrations. There isn't the different religion question in our situation but there is the distaste that hubby has for my family. Get gets along and that's about it - he does have some good times with my bro but my bro punched in once, two weeks before our wedding. I think - if you want this relationship to stay strong you are gonna half to go. You don't have to do much for presents since you don't normally celebrate this anyway. Just get something for Mom and Pop inlaw and make it simple. Try to be thoughtful but don't try to outspend the other boyfriend. I have a feeling - judging from sis' dating habits that mom and pop won't think too much of an expensive gift and will appreciate a thoughtful one. I don't know what their interests are but some suggestions could be - buy mom a nice centerpiece for the dinner table. Present it to her when you arrive and say "Merry Christmas" here's your present early. That way she recognises it for what it is. You could get special points for that move. Ask your girlfriend to help you find something that isn't just plain old spendy. You can outdo without outspending. You will get some of the biggest points from your girlfriend for doing this. If it is just too distressing it won't hurt to let her know that you hesisted going because you were afraid of competeing with sis' boyfriend but that you went because you knew it meant so much to her. I would be willing to bet you get a big kiss (or more) for that one. Then Take your own pillow with and tough it out. It is just one night. Hubby is even going to brave the real tree that my parents stupidly insisted on even though every one of us hubby, daughter, and I have miserable allergies to them. That's toughing it. Good Luck - I hope you can enjoy the time. If sis' boy gives more gifts don't sweat it. Everyone knows what your gift giving holiday is - they better not criticise. edit: sorry so long. I ramble too much. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma. Last edited by raeanna74; 12-23-2003 at 08:54 PM..