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Jim Kata · 12-23-2003, 10:21 AM

Kind of long so stop now if you want.

I may (actually, I KNOW) go all over the place with this one, but they all sort of relate (i guess)....so here I go.

I don't celebrate christmas (My gift exchanging holiday is Ramadan). But my girlfriend does. We plan on getting married and what not and I understand that I will have to celebrate christmas then and when we have kids and really have no problem with that (except for the whole santa clause thing, but I can fake liking that).

So this year, her parents invited me over for christmas eve. Her whole family will be there (Grandmother, Uncle, Bitchy Aunt, and Bitchy cousins). Her whore of a sister (who actually can be nice, but can be very whorish), has a new boyfriend. She has a new boyfriend every 4 months or so, for the past 2 1/2 years that I have been with her sister, so its no big deal. But the thing is I always feel that I have to compete or outdo the new boyfriends with things that her parents would like (keep that in mind).
He is coming to dinner too, and we have both been invited to stay the night there and go to midnight mass.

I don't want to stay the night because I am a weird sleeper...I wake up super early all the time, I talk in my sleep (the guest room is right next to her parents bedroom), and I have been known to wake up in the middle of the night with a good 3 or 4 minute sneezing fit. And most of all, I will feel really odd being there with the whole unwrapping of gifts ritual and what not.

So back to the competitive thing. My girl knows how I am about that and she keeps reminding me that it doesn't matter what her parents think, it only matters what she thinks, and I agree but still have that "out do the bastard" mentality.

Anyways, I get a call from my girl and she says "Do you love me?"
I reply with "Of Course."
She says, "will you do anything for me?"
I say, "Anything that I can I will, and If I can't I will try my best."
so she hits me up with, "My sister's boyfriend is going to stay the night...will you please stay the night too. It would be a great christmas present for me."

God damn! I really don't want to stay. I like my bed. I don't have any gifts to give them on christmas (although I did give them ramadan gifts last month)...I don't know whats proper christmas etiquette and whats not, I can come up with a thousand reasons now that I think about it...anyways...

Mr. Perfect money bags doesn't celebrate Christmas either but is going to Midnight Mass, and is going to stay the night. And I'm sure is going to bust out with gifts, even for my girl (even though the sisters supposedly said that their significant others won't be giving gifts to the other sister (did that make sense?)).

I'm lost, I don't know what to do. Should I stay?...should I not?. I used the "No one is home to keep the cats company" excuse (we are both nutty cuckoo about spoiling and loving our pets). But I think she knows that isn't the real reason.

So basically....I guess I'm asking if it is disrespectful and will it look bad if I don't do all that stuff like Mr. Perfect is to my girlfriend and her parents? Will they think that I'm a big scrooge because I didn't go to all of the stuff?

(I know, no one but themselves know the answers to those questions, but your reactions/opinions would be greatly appreciated)

I mean hell, I am going to eat dinner with them all, and I'm sure her mother knows I have a very bad social phobia. So that counts for something, right??

I don't know what to do....Help me Obi Wan Kenobi...you're my only hope.

Like I said, I know I am all over the place with this and I'm sure I added stuff that doesn't need to be here and stuff that should be here was left out. I'm just typing as I think of it. So any words of wisdom from you all would be very cool.

Thanks.

12-23-2003, 10:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	Ba humbug? Kind of long so stop now if you want. I may (actually, I KNOW) go all over the place with this one, but they all sort of relate (i guess)....so here I go. I don't celebrate christmas (My gift exchanging holiday is Ramadan). But my girlfriend does. We plan on getting married and what not and I understand that I will have to celebrate christmas then and when we have kids and really have no problem with that (except for the whole santa clause thing, but I can fake liking that). So this year, her parents invited me over for christmas eve. Her whole family will be there (Grandmother, Uncle, Bitchy Aunt, and Bitchy cousins). Her whore of a sister (who actually can be nice, but can be very whorish), has a new boyfriend. She has a new boyfriend every 4 months or so, for the past 2 1/2 years that I have been with her sister, so its no big deal. But the thing is I always feel that I have to compete or outdo the new boyfriends with things that her parents would like (keep that in mind). He is coming to dinner too, and we have both been invited to stay the night there and go to midnight mass. I don't want to stay the night because I am a weird sleeper...I wake up super early all the time, I talk in my sleep (the guest room is right next to her parents bedroom), and I have been known to wake up in the middle of the night with a good 3 or 4 minute sneezing fit. And most of all, I will feel really odd being there with the whole unwrapping of gifts ritual and what not. So back to the competitive thing. My girl knows how I am about that and she keeps reminding me that it doesn't matter what her parents think, it only matters what she thinks, and I agree but still have that "out do the bastard" mentality. Anyways, I get a call from my girl and she says "Do you love me?" I reply with "Of Course." She says, "will you do anything for me?" I say, "Anything that I can I will, and If I can't I will try my best." so she hits me up with, "My sister's boyfriend is going to stay the night...will you please stay the night too. It would be a great christmas present for me." God damn! I really don't want to stay. I like my bed. I don't have any gifts to give them on christmas (although I did give them ramadan gifts last month)...I don't know whats proper christmas etiquette and whats not, I can come up with a thousand reasons now that I think about it...anyways... Mr. Perfect money bags doesn't celebrate Christmas either but is going to Midnight Mass, and is going to stay the night. And I'm sure is going to bust out with gifts, even for my girl (even though the sisters supposedly said that their significant others won't be giving gifts to the other sister (did that make sense?)). I'm lost, I don't know what to do. Should I stay?...should I not?. I used the "No one is home to keep the cats company" excuse (we are both nutty cuckoo about spoiling and loving our pets). But I think she knows that isn't the real reason. So basically....I guess I'm asking if it is disrespectful and will it look bad if I don't do all that stuff like Mr. Perfect is to my girlfriend and her parents? Will they think that I'm a big scrooge because I didn't go to all of the stuff? (I know, no one but themselves know the answers to those questions, but your reactions/opinions would be greatly appreciated) I mean hell, I am going to eat dinner with them all, and I'm sure her mother knows I have a very bad social phobia. So that counts for something, right?? I don't know what to do....Help me Obi Wan Kenobi...you're my only hope. Like I said, I know I am all over the place with this and I'm sure I added stuff that doesn't need to be here and stuff that should be here was left out. I'm just typing as I think of it. So any words of wisdom from you all would be very cool. Thanks.