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WaxBoardChick, she did say he sounds "almost suicidal" sometimes, but she also said he blames all of his woes on her, that he keeps asking the same questions over and over despite always getting the same answers, and that she's afraid he might go over the edge if she cuts ties. It sounds like his emotion is directed at her more than at himself, and that's worrisome, as is his irrational and clingy behavior. I'm sure she would hate to have anything happen to him, but if it does, it's NOT BECAUSE OF HER, it's because of his own emotional instability, and I see no reason why she should do anything more than suggest to him that he get help and provide a list of good therapists. It would be one thing if an ex were seriously depressed but non-threatening - then I could see dragging yourself back to help out. But this guy sounds downright unbalanced and even though we may be all overreacting, I don't think she should put herself in an even potentially dangerous situation. Presumably the man has friends and family - perhaps she could get in touch with them and suggest they get him help. But getting personally involved is, IMHO, a VERY bad idea. Not only would it be unpleasant and potentially harmful for her, but it would only reinforce his behavior and prolong the process of separation.
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