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If you people read, you would notice she said “suicidal” and not “murderous,” BIG difference, he’s not a threat to society, or her, he’s only a threat to himself. So what’s the use of a restraining order?
Maybe you could sum it all up like coming off an orgasm (sorry for the bad example, only thing I could think of), but you wouldn't want the best one of your life, then have the guy just walk out of the room, grab a beer, and relax on the couch while you sit there and come down on your own suddenly making it the worst one ever, you catch my drift? So talk with him, help him through everything, get him to think positively and let him know he's got a lot waiting for him. Help him down from the tree he’s stuck in. But, from my experience, under no terms should you leave a guy in his state on his own, that would make everything so much worse. If you ever cared about him, which, since you dated him, you must have, you would WANT to help him out, make sure he knows he has someone, anyone, there for him. If you still want to be friends with him (not sure if you do or don’t), call him a little bit, talk with him, LISTEN to him, let him know you will want to maintain a friendship because. Hopefully that’s the case, because IMHO, ending a relationship and never talking/seeing the person is the worst thing for both parties. It may not be the best plan, but it’s worked with a lot of people I know, and here in Cal there are A LOT of people. The restraining order might be a bit extreme, unless he’s still coming on to you and you don’t want it. But out of nowhere, just because of some emotional e-mails you get, don’t give a restraining order, trust me, it won’t help the situation, it’s only going to make him think about killing himself even more. Maybe you don’t care about him, but I sure wouldn’t want an ex killing themselves over me. All in all, at least be a true friend to him, he’ll get better faster, and stop with what he’s doing. He won’t think so lowly, maybe even being happier will help school and family, you never know. Life’s an experiment, don’t misuse the chemicals.
(Sorry this dragged on for so long, I just get carried away with things like this)
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