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wow... i can take up 10 pages of why my relationships ended... some my faults and some not...
I guess i can focus on two of my serious ones (1 year relationship with each girl):
the first serious one I guess we broke up because of the immaturity that significantly surfaced (on both our parts)... it was tough because she was my first love, unfortunately when we start our relationship she was 15 and i was 17... naturally we were both very young, and needless to say it cause ALOT of problems.... lots of fighting over STUPID stuff, we didnt know how to handle certain situations, selfishness... and the worst thing was that she cheated on me.... well in the end i was 18 and headed to college and she was 16 and still in high school, i left about 600 miles away for school and she stayed home... she didnt want to wait for me so she dumped me... and a TON of anger and problems surface between us for that.... (long story)
My second serious relationship actually JUST ended... the good thing about this one was that we started off as JUST friends... nothing more.... and eventually we began to date... well the problems that surfaced were mostly miscommunication... BIG PROBLEM.. we just werent on the same page.. and it turned out to be a disaster.....
the list can go on with problems that will lead to break up... you have to be a VERY lucky man to find that special someone on your first or second try... sometimes it takes ALOT more tries than that (as i am finding out)
you learn to have to be confident with someone, you need to TRUST them... you MUST be 100% compatible... because if not the relationship may go sour one day... you MUST COMMUNICATE.... this is so important so there arent any misunderstandings....RESPECT each other.... if your Morals arent compatible then it wont work (i.e. Religion, Children, politics, Ethnicity & Family....etc).....
Most importantly... you must decipher the difference between TRUE LOVE and lust (puppy love)..... in the beginning you may not be able to tell the difference, but after being with that person for a LONG time you will know for sure if you LOVE them or it was just a fling....
Break ups naturally just occur when two people just arent meant for each other....
but dont worry, stay strong and let that special someone come to you, dont look for them cause you'll find them
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