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My partner did that to me. All the time. In my experience, as much as it hurts to not know if your partner is in love with you, it hurts even more to tell your partner that you love them and have them say 'I don't believe you'. That is absolutely heart-breaking.
Why is that you don't think he (I assume it's a 'he'?) loves you? I mean, is it because he doesn't show it enough, or is it because you have your own insecurities? I thought I showed my partner enough, more than enough, and each and every time she would tell me that she didn't believe me. You might think that would start me on a huge effort to *make her believe me, but instead it drove me the other way. Instead of thinking 'I'm going to make it better' I thought 'Well, if you don't believe me, that's your issue, and I'm trying my best.' That sounds incredibly selfish when I read that, but drawing up the courage to say that you love someone and have them accuse you not quite of lying, but of not truly meaning it, is a heartbreaking thing.
I think you should find out if it's him, or you, with the issues. If he really isn't trying his hardest then by all means, hint nicely to him that you need to feel a bit more special. But if you know that he's doing everything right, then it's unfair of you to make him feel like he's not doing enough if he really is.
I hope that helps a little bit. Sorry I can't answer your second question, I don't have any experience with that.
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