Thanks for all the replies. I still see a lot of "their own fault" finger pointing tho and the expectation to lose weight. Problem is making fat people feel 2nd class do not bolster them to change themselves in a positive way. The only self-destructive group that is looked down on about as much as the overweight are smokers. I have heard guys saying they wouldn't date a smoker, but that's mainly because of the ashtray breath.
However, smokers are still more widely accepted and sympathized with by many with in light of all the bannings of smoking in public areas. Fat people have no such sympathy and even many who feel sympathy say things like "they don't get fat in one day ." There are other illnesses that contribute to overweight greatly as well such as mental illness. Many fat people are depressed and deal by eating things that make them feel good. Not too much different from people who drink or smoke pot. It's not necessarily an addiction for many just a coping mechanism. When you feel like shit, buy a bag of weed. Just replace weed with "ice cream" or "Little Debbie" Cheaper than beer. Some people respond emotionally to taste stimuli- it goes back to the fact we're all different. What is pain for one is pleasure to another.
I don't think fat people should any more special treatment than anyone else who's different. If I was fat enough to take up two seats in an airplane I'd pay for two seats. I bet Shaq doesn't fit in those seats and you can't say he's fat. But I also think people should recognize that there are mental illnesses such as depression that make many fat people seek relief in food. When you make them feel like shit you are making the problem you despise even worse. Depressed overweight people aren't gonna change any faster with more stress lumped on them. Losing weight to a depressed p[erson is generally lower on the list of issues. It's an effect of a very differing cause.
I'm just saying to remember you never really know a person until you get to know them. There are so many kind, generous, funny, friendly and in some cases sexy fat people. If your policy is "innocent till proven asshole" with a black person or Hispanic or East Indian, then why not with a fat person?
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