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Secret Method is very wise for 20 years old. I wish I had known a bunch of this when I was 20.
Seriously, he has it right. Seek counseling immediately. If she is already cheating, the chances of survival are slim. However there is still a chance she hasn't done anything, and this is just kind of a cry for help. My wife and I were very close when we were first married but then things happened (I got laid off, her mother died, we moved and she hated her job) that just stressed us out. We began fighting which affected all other aspects of the marriage. Sometimes when you are in a fighting cycle, it is hard to see your way out of it. We started counseling, but it didn't seem to help (we had the wrong counselor). I ended up moving out for a couple of weeks a few months after the birth of our first child (one other stress). Even though we saw each other every day when I went over to spend time with my son, it just wasn't the same. It took me about about 10 days away to realize that I did not want the marriage to end. We went back into counseling and figured out where we had gone wrong. The feelings had never ended, but they had been buried beneath a lot of bad feelings. We are very, very careful about how we deal with the relationship these days, and we are happier than just about any couple we know.
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