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Originally posted by em1014
A friend of mine and I actually posted something about this last spring but when tfp crashed last I think it was erased. We were having the exact same trouble as you were and our history was very similiar. Most of the responses we recieved were one, we needed some sort of drug to cure us or two, we needed therapy.
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I guess i'm the freind and since so many people responded to our thread, I feel like I should in turn, tell you what I learned.
I am absolutly in love with my boyfreind now
and he was wonderful enough to be patient with me, which like em said seemed to be the best medicine. I know that for many people counseling is good advice, but I really was not open to trying it, I don't like talking to strangers at all! And I am definitly agaisnt telling you to take meds for this!!
Don't feel like you have to be fixed!!! That's one of the hugest issues. There is nothing wrong with you other than the fact that sex=sick and queasy, the things in your past are not your fault. You Do need to come to terms with them, but it doesn't mean anything is WRONG with you.
My boyfreind suggested counseling for me but didnt try to force me into anything. He just listened to me. It sounds like your in a good relationship. Time really heals so many things. If you can relax enough to enjoy yourself it changes so many things.