I would say, don't worry about what others think and feel. I have a family there, but they harbor resentment towards me for things they feel I "made up" about my father as a child... so needless to say my life since I was 10 has been without the emotional, physical, and helpful support of my family. I have learned that you can only rely on your own feelings and emotions. My family will never choose my friends or my partner in life... it's a plus if they do like them, but I personally don't care what my family thinks of my life.
It's kinda sad that I feel that way sometimes, but you are the only one that truely knows yourself. As much of a cliche as that may be.
I have a false relationship with my family because I'd like my children to at least know that they do have grandparents/great grandparents that are "there" physically.
That's really my 2 cents... hope it was helpful.
Also, I know that you two will be happy together and your heart will make these decisions easier for you (I hope)... best wishes as you are both awesome people
