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rufgti · 11-09-2003, 04:48 PM

Thanks folks...I appreciate the open comments.

To clarify, she is doing it just for the money not the attention. She is a refugee case and her status does not allow her too many options. Her English is passable but she does have a strong accent.

We had just discussed looking at other job options and I know that if given a chance, she would take it. Unfortunately, there is not much in this regard.

The situation is clear. She will strip to make money and having the security of whatever she saves (which she is good at) will make her happy.

The only way I can make her happy is to get my financial situation organized so that I can help her and help us get what we really want--a small house in Australia and a small biz to bring food to the table.

I wish that I had gotten my situation set up a long time ago and I know that I am making the bed I sleep in. It does not change the fact that it is killing me...but what else can I do? I really care about this girl but if for the rest of my life I have to look behind my shoulder wondering if she will dance again is not something I look forward to.

There are no assurances in life--she and I could be doing well now, and regardless of how prepared we are, this situation could come up again.

Like I said, I am really unsure how I should proceed.

11-09-2003, 04:48 PM	#8 (permalink)
rufgti Crazy Location: North of the Border	Thanks folks...I appreciate the open comments. To clarify, she is doing it just for the money not the attention. She is a refugee case and her status does not allow her too many options. Her English is passable but she does have a strong accent. We had just discussed looking at other job options and I know that if given a chance, she would take it. Unfortunately, there is not much in this regard. The situation is clear. She will strip to make money and having the security of whatever she saves (which she is good at) will make her happy. The only way I can make her happy is to get my financial situation organized so that I can help her and help us get what we really want--a small house in Australia and a small biz to bring food to the table. I wish that I had gotten my situation set up a long time ago and I know that I am making the bed I sleep in. It does not change the fact that it is killing me...but what else can I do? I really care about this girl but if for the rest of my life I have to look behind my shoulder wondering if she will dance again is not something I look forward to. There are no assurances in life--she and I could be doing well now, and regardless of how prepared we are, this situation could come up again. Like I said, I am really unsure how I should proceed. __________________ Sometimes, you gotta say no to a stripper....