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Sledge- this may sound negative but is intended more as a reality check....in all relationships there is a certain amount of give and take, at one point one may need to give 80% of the effort and at another can only provide 20%...yet 100% of the relationship needs have to be met. I have found the resentment that generally leads to failure between couples has its roots in the expectations one has of the other to meet percentage quota.
This expectation is a product of the person who percieves it and NOT the person we expect it from. If the other person is incapable of meeting our expected percentage we find them lacking and begin the change how we feel about them, this is unfair to that person as it was our expectation of them that created the failure, not the actual performance of the individual.thus the mantra...no expectations- no dissapointment
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Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha
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