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analog · 11-05-2003, 11:45 PM

It's obvious the parents are holding out for themselves... no one is vegetative for 13 years and still recognizes or smiles or any shit like that.

It's a fact that the MOST psychologically devastating death is a spouse- not your parents, not your kids- no one else. A spouse who was truly loved is the hardest burden to bear... and this poor man has been dealing with it for 13 years now.

You look down at the man or woman you love... and they can show no love in return... and you know it's there... but they can't say it... they can't show it... they just lie there as you cry over them. I know for me personally... the way I am about death and those i've loved... if one day my then-spouse died... it will send me into a mental hell. It will be insanely difficult to bring me back, and i'm not sure i'd want to come back. I'd be the old guy in the psych hospital who just sits and stares at the wall, never speaking, the look of ultimate pain and loss permenently plastered on my face.

If you love someone, love them enough to help them help you. Get living wills.

11-05-2003, 11:45 PM	#23 (permalink)
analog Banned	It's obvious the parents are holding out for themselves... no one is vegetative for 13 years and still recognizes or smiles or any shit like that. It's a fact that the MOST psychologically devastating death is a spouse- not your parents, not your kids- no one else. A spouse who was truly loved is the hardest burden to bear... and this poor man has been dealing with it for 13 years now. You look down at the man or woman you love... and they can show no love in return... and you know it's there... but they can't say it... they can't show it... they just lie there as you cry over them. I know for me personally... the way I am about death and those i've loved... if one day my then-spouse died... it will send me into a mental hell. It will be insanely difficult to bring me back, and i'm not sure i'd want to come back. I'd be the old guy in the psych hospital who just sits and stares at the wall, never speaking, the look of ultimate pain and loss permenently plastered on my face. If you love someone, love them enough to help them help you. Get living wills.