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One key (not the only one) to a good marriage is knowing what you both want before you tie the knot; where you want to end up, what you want out of life, kids or not, financial security now versus later, the whole thing. When you're boyfriend or girlfriend, or even living together for a few years, these issues can be deferred, and most of them are. After all, there's been no firm, lifelong commitment. The problem comes when people segue from long-term relationship to marriage without talking out all these issues first. If you don't, there'll be trouble a few years down the line when one side wants things to be different while the other thinks that, because nothing was said, everything was settled.
I think that's why a lot of people who live together break up after getting married. They think that marriage is like living together but with a license. And a couple of years later, a lot of them find out that it's more complicated than that. Although, also more worthwhile, if you're up for it.
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