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MrFlux · 04-28-2003, 01:23 AM

imo it depends on who the lie is to and what exactly the lie is.
For example, I don't lie to my girlfriend about anything, and I'm being serious here. She told me she was taking me out this weekend but wouldn't say where and I told her straight out that if she was planning on taking me out to dinner she'd better change plans, because I just took her out to dinner last week. Thankfully that wasn't what she had in mind coz it probably would have upset her a bit, but then again if I hadn't told her and she had taken me out for dinner, she would have seen that I'd rather have done something else for a date and been more upset... and she always gets my honest opinion "Hmm, your hair looks okay but I think it'd be better if you did this..."

On the other hand, there are a lot of people I am not totally honest to. The usual reason for this is it's either something said person doesn't need to know about, or it's something I would tell them about if they didn't give me the idea that something very bad is going to happen if I tell the truth... such as my girlfriend's mum.

Generally most of the time I lie it's to someone I don't trust or seems threatening. I don't lie to my own mother, because she accepts my decisions. Also I don't even have to lie or tell her the truth because she figures things out which means I neither have to confirm nor deny it... which she likes because she's not being lied to and at the same time it gives her deniability, she can just say "I don't know," which is good, because she doesn't like lying either.

On a sidenote my gf rang up while I was typing this and she agreed that she would have been more upset if she'd found out after having taken me out. She adds "Truth is one of the most important parts of a relationship, coz if you can't trust your boyfriend/girlfriend, you're basically screwed."

So there's my 2c on the subject. I lie, but not about certain things or to certain people. Always think of the consequences of your action.

04-28-2003, 01:23 AM	#28 (permalink)
MrFlux Fluxing wildly... Location: Auckland, New Zealand	imo it depends on who the lie is to and what exactly the lie is. For example, I don't lie to my girlfriend about anything, and I'm being serious here. She told me she was taking me out this weekend but wouldn't say where and I told her straight out that if she was planning on taking me out to dinner she'd better change plans, because I just took her out to dinner last week. Thankfully that wasn't what she had in mind coz it probably would have upset her a bit, but then again if I hadn't told her and she had taken me out for dinner, she would have seen that I'd rather have done something else for a date and been more upset... and she always gets my honest opinion "Hmm, your hair looks okay but I think it'd be better if you did this..." On the other hand, there are a lot of people I am not totally honest to. The usual reason for this is it's either something said person doesn't need to know about, or it's something I would tell them about if they didn't give me the idea that something very bad is going to happen if I tell the truth... such as my girlfriend's mum. Generally most of the time I lie it's to someone I don't trust or seems threatening. I don't lie to my own mother, because she accepts my decisions. Also I don't even have to lie or tell her the truth because she figures things out which means I neither have to confirm nor deny it... which she likes because she's not being lied to and at the same time it gives her deniability, she can just say "I don't know," which is good, because she doesn't like lying either. On a sidenote my gf rang up while I was typing this and she agreed that she would have been more upset if she'd found out after having taken me out. She adds "Truth is one of the most important parts of a relationship, coz if you can't trust your boyfriend/girlfriend, you're basically screwed." So there's my 2c on the subject. I lie, but not about certain things or to certain people. Always think of the consequences of your action. __________________ flux (n.) Medicine. The discharge of large quantities of fluid material from the body, especially the discharge of watery feces from the intestines.