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Mitzkrieg · 11-04-2003, 11:34 AM

interesting..... I have been involved in this situation before. let me tell you what happened with me, and what things are like afterwards.

my friend who was going to get married, works with me in the same department at work and i've know him for a very long time. my fiance worked in the same company as us, in the department next door. my fiance and friend were friendly with each other. Well, my friend was telling the guys in our department and other people that he was going to invite that he might have a guest limit because of the money issue. before the invitations were sent out, my friend came straight to me and said that my fiance wasn't going to be invited, only me, reason being that he didn't have enough space at the reception and other people besides her were not going to be invited either. i later came to find out that a couple other guys in our department were able to bring their wife or g/f. so i was a bit bugged by this and my fiance was very upset. I ended up finding out that there was going to be a person at his wedding and reception that had personal issues with my fiance and figured that he must not want both of them there because he didn't want any problems. this is just a theory. anyways, regardless of the reason she wasn't invited, she was still upset. i wasn't sure if i was going to go. just like you, my fiance and i are a package deal, we go everywhere together.

i ended up not going and just blew it off without saying anything to my friend. afterwards, i gave him some bullshit excuse that i had something come up. but he knew my fiance was upset about it. he could see it in her face and the way she reacted to him while we were all at work. needless to say, him and i are still friends, but it just isn't the same. we don't hang out like we used to at all. and when we talk to each other, there isn't much converstation. it's just way different. i wish we didn't have to go through that.

so that's it. maybe think about how important your friendship with this guy is. if you're not to worried about it, then don't go. or, if you do go, will this bother your g/f enough that she might resent you or hold it over your head years down the line? i dunno, just throwing things out there.

11-04-2003, 11:34 AM	#13 (permalink)
Mitzkrieg Insane	interesting..... I have been involved in this situation before. let me tell you what happened with me, and what things are like afterwards. my friend who was going to get married, works with me in the same department at work and i've know him for a very long time. my fiance worked in the same company as us, in the department next door. my fiance and friend were friendly with each other. Well, my friend was telling the guys in our department and other people that he was going to invite that he might have a guest limit because of the money issue. before the invitations were sent out, my friend came straight to me and said that my fiance wasn't going to be invited, only me, reason being that he didn't have enough space at the reception and other people besides her were not going to be invited either. i later came to find out that a couple other guys in our department were able to bring their wife or g/f. so i was a bit bugged by this and my fiance was very upset. I ended up finding out that there was going to be a person at his wedding and reception that had personal issues with my fiance and figured that he must not want both of them there because he didn't want any problems. this is just a theory. anyways, regardless of the reason she wasn't invited, she was still upset. i wasn't sure if i was going to go. just like you, my fiance and i are a package deal, we go everywhere together. i ended up not going and just blew it off without saying anything to my friend. afterwards, i gave him some bullshit excuse that i had something come up. but he knew my fiance was upset about it. he could see it in her face and the way she reacted to him while we were all at work. needless to say, him and i are still friends, but it just isn't the same. we don't hang out like we used to at all. and when we talk to each other, there isn't much converstation. it's just way different. i wish we didn't have to go through that. so that's it. maybe think about how important your friendship with this guy is. if you're not to worried about it, then don't go. or, if you do go, will this bother your g/f enough that she might resent you or hold it over your head years down the line? i dunno, just throwing things out there.