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Jim Kata · 11-04-2003, 05:37 AM

So, I need some advice. A friend of mine told me and my girlfriend that he proposed to his girlfriend of about 6 years. We got all excited and celebrated with champagne, shots, drinks, hugs and what not. My girlfriend was really happy for him (cause she knows how much his friendship means to me), even though that night was the first night they ever really talked to eachother for more than 2 seconds. They actually talked all night. It was cool, since he knows that I plan on marrying her in the future.
Anyways..he calls me the other day to let me know that he plans on getting married at the end of the month. He plans on having a small small wedding (family and 2 or 3 friends), but only I am invited, not my better half. When I told her this, she was crushed. Everyone who knows us, knows that we are a package deal….she goes where I go, and vice versa (if we want to).
So anyways, I have to work on the day of his wedding and its not easy getting anyone to cover shifts at my other job. I also am in desperate need of new tires, and need to pay off a few bills that I have putting off. So a wedding present won’t be easy to pull, but is doable.
Okay, I think I’ve gone off subject. I guess my question is…should I go or not? I know his fiance does not like me…at all. But I have known him since I was about 10 (so for 17 years). My girlfriend says to go and she doesn’t mind not going, but I know she is hurt that she isn’t invited (she got snubbed on someone elses wedding a few months ago).
I’m thinking maybe money is stopping the +1 on the invite, but that is sort of bullshit, since the last 3 times I went out with him (and his girl), I have paid, always getting those (I’ll get you the next time, even though that never happens/happened). So I can’t think of a better way for them to pay me back by inviting my girl (but of course I can’t say that).
He is a really good friend of mine, even though we rarely see eachother since he moved back from down south.
Also, I haven’t had a Friday night off in over 2 years, but the wedding is on a Friday into Friday night. And I feel bad that I have never taken off a Friday for my woman, but am willing to for my friend…if I go.
I don’t know what to do….some people say go, some say don’t…but I’m leaving it up to you guys.
Sorry that this is all over the place.
Thanks in advance.

11-04-2003, 05:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	Should I stay or should I go? So, I need some advice. A friend of mine told me and my girlfriend that he proposed to his girlfriend of about 6 years. We got all excited and celebrated with champagne, shots, drinks, hugs and what not. My girlfriend was really happy for him (cause she knows how much his friendship means to me), even though that night was the first night they ever really talked to eachother for more than 2 seconds. They actually talked all night. It was cool, since he knows that I plan on marrying her in the future. Anyways..he calls me the other day to let me know that he plans on getting married at the end of the month. He plans on having a small small wedding (family and 2 or 3 friends), but only I am invited, not my better half. When I told her this, she was crushed. Everyone who knows us, knows that we are a package deal….she goes where I go, and vice versa (if we want to). So anyways, I have to work on the day of his wedding and its not easy getting anyone to cover shifts at my other job. I also am in desperate need of new tires, and need to pay off a few bills that I have putting off. So a wedding present won’t be easy to pull, but is doable. Okay, I think I’ve gone off subject. I guess my question is…should I go or not? I know his fiance does not like me…at all. But I have known him since I was about 10 (so for 17 years). My girlfriend says to go and she doesn’t mind not going, but I know she is hurt that she isn’t invited (she got snubbed on someone elses wedding a few months ago). I’m thinking maybe money is stopping the +1 on the invite, but that is sort of bullshit, since the last 3 times I went out with him (and his girl), I have paid, always getting those (I’ll get you the next time, even though that never happens/happened). So I can’t think of a better way for them to pay me back by inviting my girl (but of course I can’t say that). He is a really good friend of mine, even though we rarely see eachother since he moved back from down south. Also, I haven’t had a Friday night off in over 2 years, but the wedding is on a Friday into Friday night. And I feel bad that I have never taken off a Friday for my woman, but am willing to for my friend…if I go. I don’t know what to do….some people say go, some say don’t…but I’m leaving it up to you guys. Sorry that this is all over the place. Thanks in advance.