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Kimminy Jicket · 11-01-2003, 09:53 AM

Hey all, this is my first thread but it seems like you guys give excellent advice and I've found myself in a relationship bind that I can't figure out. It's a real sappy high school type situation, but any advice would be great.
Alright me and this girl have been friends for a couple of years now, in that time she has dated a couple of guys, the last of which had a lasting effect on her (He moved up to Canada after they were together for 6 months, they tried to stay together but it didn't work), and a friend of mine has always had a little crush on her so I've seen her as "out of bounds". Recently though she and myself have been getting very close, both of us thought about dating and I asked her out, she said the timing wasn't great due to the fact she wasn't completely over her first boyfriend, but in a couple of weeks she would be ready. Then a couple of days ago we were at the movies and we were playing around and I pecked her on the lips, nothing big. She freaks out a little, saying she isn't ready and such. We go back to my place and while we are sitting there she pounces on me and we make out a bit. Now after this she freaks out again..saying she isn't ready, that in a week or 2 she might be fine, and eventually she heads home.
Now in the days since, she has avoided all physical contact with me, takes everything I say as an insult or a mean spirited comment (they aren't, and have to be interpreted quite weirdly to be taken as so), and flirts with pretty much anything with testosorone that she can find. All this has pretty much made it almost unbearable to be around her because it is so awkward. I didn't care if I was just friends or more with this girl, but it appears now that everything is ruined. Any ideas on what could be going through her head, how I can possibly save the potential relationship or at the very least the friendship, or anything else would be great.

11-01-2003, 09:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
Kimminy Jicket Upright	Relationship woes (yet another thread) Hey all, this is my first thread but it seems like you guys give excellent advice and I've found myself in a relationship bind that I can't figure out. It's a real sappy high school type situation, but any advice would be great. Alright me and this girl have been friends for a couple of years now, in that time she has dated a couple of guys, the last of which had a lasting effect on her (He moved up to Canada after they were together for 6 months, they tried to stay together but it didn't work), and a friend of mine has always had a little crush on her so I've seen her as "out of bounds". Recently though she and myself have been getting very close, both of us thought about dating and I asked her out, she said the timing wasn't great due to the fact she wasn't completely over her first boyfriend, but in a couple of weeks she would be ready. Then a couple of days ago we were at the movies and we were playing around and I pecked her on the lips, nothing big. She freaks out a little, saying she isn't ready and such. We go back to my place and while we are sitting there she pounces on me and we make out a bit. Now after this she freaks out again..saying she isn't ready, that in a week or 2 she might be fine, and eventually she heads home. Now in the days since, she has avoided all physical contact with me, takes everything I say as an insult or a mean spirited comment (they aren't, and have to be interpreted quite weirdly to be taken as so), and flirts with pretty much anything with testosorone that she can find. All this has pretty much made it almost unbearable to be around her because it is so awkward. I didn't care if I was just friends or more with this girl, but it appears now that everything is ruined. Any ideas on what could be going through her head, how I can possibly save the potential relationship or at the very least the friendship, or anything else would be great.