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I think one of the driving forces behind lies is the need/desire to be accepted. I've known people who have made things up in an attempt to fit in, but it never works (at least, not that I've seen). People also lie to get things that they otherwise might not be able to get.
That said, I also think lies are one of the most damaging things to any kind of relationship, romantic or otherwise. Discovering that someone close to you has lied to you is like being hit in the crotch.
My friends and I at college have had a sort of game going on constantly for the past year. We occasionally will steal something from another one of our friends, and either make it reappear in an odd place, or wait until they discover its gone. At first, we would deny having it. At first, it was pretty obvious if someone was lying, but eventually some of my friends got pretty good at it, and we couldn't tell. When that started happening, we all decided that we had to stop lying about these things, because it was getting really hard to trust someone who insisted that they did not have something, only to find out later that they did.
Lies, even in a joking context, can still be damaging.
Nikki, I hope you're ok... you seem to have some pretty strong feelings about this one. We're all here for you, if you need us.
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I approach college much like a recovering alcoholic--one day at a time...
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