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As I said to the girl whose dad is coming out of his shell shock after loss of his wife, it takes 1 year for every 5 years of the relationship to emotionally recover.
Many men just rush into another relationship to relieve the pain. And it does relieve the pain, but you haven't processed the pain, and healed yet. So you aren't emotionally healthy, or able to really give you love or commit to someone new. Your ex is also un-healed apparently.
It's a little sad you jumped in the sack with one another on the rebound. Eventually, that will probably result in your not being able to get back together for a long term or marriage relationship.
But you can be really helpful to one another by being friends in this journey of life. Talk to her about how it felt with her, why it was so good, what went wrong, and what has happened since. Even how missing her hot, kinky loving affected your relationships since.
Maybe with enough emotional honesty, and sharing this healing time together, you might even find a way to truly love one another again. At worst, you'll give yourselves a chance to become life long friends, which is a true gift. Unless the sex you've shared gets in the way for one or the other of you.
Good luck, and be patient with yourself. You've been hurt, and you need time to heal.
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Trueheart
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