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raeanna74 · 10-27-2003, 04:52 PM

Dei said it well. We are swingers and have tried all of the things you mentioned. We have done full swaps but always in the same room/home depending on where we are. We did go to one ON Premise party where it was group sex. We don't do it on our own - the idea of giving each other the chance to have pleasure and the freedom to watch each other is part of the fun.

One thing I would like to mention is that BEFORE you start you need to
1. Talk and talk a lot.
2. Decided on your rules before hand. (Like Dei Said)
3. Never set up a "date" before consulting with your partner about if they are ok with these particular people.
4. Be willing and ready to stop immediately should the other partner become uncomfortable. Even if you are naked and it means you don't get any sex.
5. Listen to your partner's feelings and communicate yours too.

There is no room for hiding anything. You can't just wait and hope it will blow over when you are swinging. It has been very good for us. I tend to hesitate to say something until it gets bad but with Swinging I have learned I have to speak up NOW and we solve the problems before they become big. It has carried over into other areas of our marriage. Swinging has taught us to trust each other so much more. We have never really done a MFF or MFM 3somes. All of our sexual encounters so far have been 4 or more individuals.

It seems to me that those who we've made friends with through swinging tend to be more protective and loyal friends than those we have otherwise. I'm sure the intimacy that we've shared is part of that connection.

Swinging isnt' for everyone but when done right I think it's awesome. It is common for couples to take some "time off" a little ways into it. Once you try it you need to sit down and have a lot of in depth conversations regarding your feelings about it. We actually took about 6 months off because of a number of reasons. After talking about it and making sure our marriage was where it needed to be then we resumed meeting new couples.

Like Dei said. Feel free to ask any other questions you might have.

10-27-2003, 04:52 PM	#4 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	Dei said it well. We are swingers and have tried all of the things you mentioned. We have done full swaps but always in the same room/home depending on where we are. We did go to one ON Premise party where it was group sex. We don't do it on our own - the idea of giving each other the chance to have pleasure and the freedom to watch each other is part of the fun. One thing I would like to mention is that BEFORE you start you need to 1. Talk and talk a lot. 2. Decided on your rules before hand. (Like Dei Said) 3. Never set up a "date" before consulting with your partner about if they are ok with these particular people. 4. Be willing and ready to stop immediately should the other partner become uncomfortable. Even if you are naked and it means you don't get any sex. 5. Listen to your partner's feelings and communicate yours too. There is no room for hiding anything. You can't just wait and hope it will blow over when you are swinging. It has been very good for us. I tend to hesitate to say something until it gets bad but with Swinging I have learned I have to speak up NOW and we solve the problems before they become big. It has carried over into other areas of our marriage. Swinging has taught us to trust each other so much more. We have never really done a MFF or MFM 3somes. All of our sexual encounters so far have been 4 or more individuals. It seems to me that those who we've made friends with through swinging tend to be more protective and loyal friends than those we have otherwise. I'm sure the intimacy that we've shared is part of that connection. Swinging isnt' for everyone but when done right I think it's awesome. It is common for couples to take some "time off" a little ways into it. Once you try it you need to sit down and have a lot of in depth conversations regarding your feelings about it. We actually took about 6 months off because of a number of reasons. After talking about it and making sure our marriage was where it needed to be then we resumed meeting new couples. Like Dei said. Feel free to ask any other questions you might have. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.