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I know about the financial situation. I make a pretty good living now, but for years we were living paycheck to paycheck, and we didn't have free babysitting like we do now. My mother recently moved back to town, so we get the occasional night off for free. What I meant by date night was making the children go back to their rooms at a reasonably early hour (say 8 pm), and we would sit and watch a movie together (side by side on the couch) that was either a video rental or PPV (around $4). This is supposed to be our time. The kids are playing on the computer or watching tv in the other room. It doesn't always work out that we don't get interrupted, but for the most part we aren't. Early on, our date nights would usually lead to sex just to us touching each other a bunch during the movie, but we have kind of moved away from that as it isn't always convenient to sneak off to the bedroom, etc. Instead we let this time become kind of a mental building block for when we can easily slip out.
We have absolutely set boundaries with the kids that when mom and dad are "talking" back in the bedroom, they aren't to interrupt. The door being closed and locked is a pretty nice deterrent to them interrupting us.
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