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Originally posted by james t kirk
How bout a 4-some.
Two couples with full swapping.
Does that wreck a relationship too?
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Yes. Personally I think swapping is much safer for the relationship than a 3 some. You don't have a 3rd wheel situation with a full swap. Most of the time the other couple is fully committed and the chance of them coming between you and your relationship with your girl is much smaller than just having another woman there.
As far as a 3some or even 4some for that matter being infidelity - I don't think it is. The synonyms for infidelity in the thesaurus are: disloyalty, faithlessness, falseness, falsity, perfidiousness, perfidy, unfaithfulness. These all seem to refer to hiding, lying, or falsehoods. If you are in the act together then you aren't hiding it from your partner.
The biggest thing to consider - you MUST know that youre girl is ok with this and what her motives are for participating. Same with the other girl/couple. When you know that - if you are still comfortable with the idea then go for it. IF you aren't COMPLETELY comfortable with it then DO NOT, do not go through with it. Any kind of play like this is based on trust - COMPLETE trust. If you can't have that then don't play with fire.