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StephenSa · 10-14-2003, 08:25 AM

Here's my dilemma. I was helping my fiance' move to her (soon to be our) new house and I found a large collection of bondage erotica. As a guy I have my share of porn, pretty straight forward sex videos, the ususal Vivid video type porn, but the sheer volume of this far outstripped my collection. It was all of the bondage, S&M variety as well. Mostly stories, not so much pictures. My curiosity piqued by this I did what I probably shouldn't. I started snooping. My hasty search revealed a collection of about five various sized dildos, a cock ring, a whip, leather collars and wrist bands, a satin glove and some leather bits that in my haste I couldn't identify. Hoo boy, this freaked me out. I'm aware at thirty three my fiance has a sexual past and bully for her! Still this sort of thing is beyond my experience. I asked her if she was deep into this lifestyle and were there things I needed to know. She said it was something she tried "a couple of times, a long time ago" with an ex-boyfriend but it was no big deal and she had forgotten that stuff was even in there. She went on to say most of it was for a Halloween costume and she had just thrown it all together in the same box. I accepted what she said but honestly I am having trouble buying it. Her large collection of erotica seemed to show more than a passing interest and she went so far as to buy "gear". She also has an eleven year old daughter and I should think if she wasn't into it she would have dumped the material long ago lest it be discovered by the little girl. I also found an S&M birthdaycard signed by her "Master" (who had the same first name as me, as if I need that aggravation). I gotta say I'm having trouble getting images of her all bound up and prodded by some other guy out of my head but with just a little time I'll get over it. Her past is really none of my business but I wonder about our future. If this is the sort of thing she is into will she become bored by me? I'm a pretty meat & potatos sort of guy and being cuffed and hit with a whip just ISN"T going to happen. Does one just stop needing that sort of sexual excitement or does it become part of one's sexual dynamic? Bottom line, Should I worry about our future due to this?

10-14-2003, 08:25 AM	#1 (permalink)
StephenSa Psycho Location: Dallas, Texas	Found Finace's bondage stash, should I worry? Here's my dilemma. I was helping my fiance' move to her (soon to be our) new house and I found a large collection of bondage erotica. As a guy I have my share of porn, pretty straight forward sex videos, the ususal Vivid video type porn, but the sheer volume of this far outstripped my collection. It was all of the bondage, S&M variety as well. Mostly stories, not so much pictures. My curiosity piqued by this I did what I probably shouldn't. I started snooping. My hasty search revealed a collection of about five various sized dildos, a cock ring, a whip, leather collars and wrist bands, a satin glove and some leather bits that in my haste I couldn't identify. Hoo boy, this freaked me out. I'm aware at thirty three my fiance has a sexual past and bully for her! Still this sort of thing is beyond my experience. I asked her if she was deep into this lifestyle and were there things I needed to know. She said it was something she tried "a couple of times, a long time ago" with an ex-boyfriend but it was no big deal and she had forgotten that stuff was even in there. She went on to say most of it was for a Halloween costume and she had just thrown it all together in the same box. I accepted what she said but honestly I am having trouble buying it. Her large collection of erotica seemed to show more than a passing interest and she went so far as to buy "gear". She also has an eleven year old daughter and I should think if she wasn't into it she would have dumped the material long ago lest it be discovered by the little girl. I also found an S&M birthdaycard signed by her "Master" (who had the same first name as me, as if I need that aggravation). I gotta say I'm having trouble getting images of her all bound up and prodded by some other guy out of my head but with just a little time I'll get over it. Her past is really none of my business but I wonder about our future. If this is the sort of thing she is into will she become bored by me? I'm a pretty meat & potatos sort of guy and being cuffed and hit with a whip just ISN"T going to happen. Does one just stop needing that sort of sexual excitement or does it become part of one's sexual dynamic? Bottom line, Should I worry about our future due to this?