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raeanna74 · 10-13-2003, 06:15 AM

There was a neighbor woman (PLEASE don't think I'm saying you are anything like this woman) that hubby used to be crazy about. I was nice to her and all and talked with her sometimes too. She had a nice body and she loved to show off her body which he was nuts about. He was constantly wanting to go over and chat with her and to help her with stuff. He helped rearrange her livingroom for example and often let her vent about her boyfriends. Now hubby and I were married and she had numerous boyfriends. Thing is I could tell he was almost obsessed by her talking about her often. It wasn't necessarily like she'd "steal" him but I just didn't want him going there to see her. She was manipulative and it would make him upset sometimes which I ended up having to deal with. I knew hubby and didn't trust him to not want to play around with her.

I just said all that to suggest - maybe he acts a little like he likes you or she interprets it that way. He may not be totally up front with her either. When hubby would go over to her place without telling me or not even come home from work until nearly 2 or 3 hours late because he'd gone over there it bothered me. I know what you mean about wanting her to trust you. Personally I think it's a trust issue between her and him. I would suggest you have a talk with him and tell him you will still be friends but that until he's able to work this out with her that you will reduce contact with him. Try not to do any studying or work on projects together.

If she is right for him he will work it out before long. If not he'll figure it out, but either way you'll still be friends and can get back in touch when things are calmer. I don't think this has anything to do with you. I think she needs to either learn to trust him or he needs to find out she's too much trouble to be worth the relationship. You stepping back for a while would be the best way for them to find out those things. Good luck.

10-13-2003, 06:15 AM	#14 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	There was a neighbor woman (PLEASE don't think I'm saying you are anything like this woman) that hubby used to be crazy about. I was nice to her and all and talked with her sometimes too. She had a nice body and she loved to show off her body which he was nuts about. He was constantly wanting to go over and chat with her and to help her with stuff. He helped rearrange her livingroom for example and often let her vent about her boyfriends. Now hubby and I were married and she had numerous boyfriends. Thing is I could tell he was almost obsessed by her talking about her often. It wasn't necessarily like she'd "steal" him but I just didn't want him going there to see her. She was manipulative and it would make him upset sometimes which I ended up having to deal with. I knew hubby and didn't trust him to not want to play around with her. I just said all that to suggest - maybe he acts a little like he likes you or she interprets it that way. He may not be totally up front with her either. When hubby would go over to her place without telling me or not even come home from work until nearly 2 or 3 hours late because he'd gone over there it bothered me. I know what you mean about wanting her to trust you. Personally I think it's a trust issue between her and him. I would suggest you have a talk with him and tell him you will still be friends but that until he's able to work this out with her that you will reduce contact with him. Try not to do any studying or work on projects together. If she is right for him he will work it out before long. If not he'll figure it out, but either way you'll still be friends and can get back in touch when things are calmer. I don't think this has anything to do with you. I think she needs to either learn to trust him or he needs to find out she's too much trouble to be worth the relationship. You stepping back for a while would be the best way for them to find out those things. Good luck. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma. Last edited by raeanna74; 10-13-2003 at 06:20 AM..