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sexymama · 10-11-2003, 06:39 PM

Why not try asking your gf (and maybe your closest friends) when they can get back to you? Especially with your gf it seems fair to say something like, "I was really looking forward to time with you -- do you think you could call me back when you are done? (or in an hour?) Or, when she isn't busy, have a conversation to explain to her how you desire time with her and that you understand her being busy; but that you would feel better if you knew when you could call back or when she would call you back.

In-the-meantime, know this isn't about you. We have very busy lives and "putting off those we love" is one of the by products.

Oh, another idea is to get involved in what she is doing so that you can be included more.

10-11-2003, 06:39 PM	#5 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Why not try asking your gf (and maybe your closest friends) when they can get back to you? Especially with your gf it seems fair to say something like, "I was really looking forward to time with you -- do you think you could call me back when you are done? (or in an hour?) Or, when she isn't busy, have a conversation to explain to her how you desire time with her and that you understand her being busy; but that you would feel better if you knew when you could call back or when she would call you back. In-the-meantime, know this isn't about you. We have very busy lives and "putting off those we love" is one of the by products. Oh, another idea is to get involved in what she is doing so that you can be included more. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.