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Unfortunately, you can't force people to make good decisions. Sad, but true.
If it's any comfort, I noticed a general trend among many of the women I know: a lot of them hooked up with jerks when they were in their teens and early twenties; arrogance and danger were exciting and worked a powerful fascination on them. By their mid-twenties most of them got sick of arseholes and got their shit together relationship wise. It seems to be a phase many women go through.
That said, where you ought to become worried is if her use of booze/drugs ramps up, or if you start seeing classic signs of abuse (being cut off from old friends, covering up more than normal, and so on), because it's going from a "silly phase" to dangerous. Even then, your options can be pretty limited: you can try to stage some sort of intervention, but that doesn't always work out how you intended. You can try to tell the boyfriend to piss off, but again, doesn't always work.
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