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Originally posted by lurkette
You can voice your opinion to her, but beyond that it's up to her to make her own mistakes. Tell her you're concerned and that you respect her choices but you can't stand to watch her make this mistake, and can't be around her and the scummy boyfriend. If she wants help getting out or getting over him, you're there for her to support her, but you can't condone his behavior and you hate to watch her be degraded like that.
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Um, I like you a lot, lurkette.
BZZZZZZZZZT.
Telling your friend what you're doing, even gently, is still trying to overtly influence her decisions. For whatever reason, in this circumstance, it's like snapping a bullwhip at her: YOU know you're just trying to get her back in line, but she ends up on the other side of the cage.
There is no good way to put it. Do everything in lurkette's post
except tell her that you're cutting her off because you can't condone his behavior and watch her be degraded. Support her if/when she comes back, but never, never,
never tell her she's making a mistake, etc. That will make her believe that you're not on "her" side which, at the moment, is his side. Just mysteriously don't be around.