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chavos · 09-30-2003, 07:37 PM

break up clearly, but with compassion.
A few of my experiences, personal and observed:

1. The missing break up. One party fails to notify the other adequately that a break up has taken place. Very cruel. Deserving of a special ring of hell.

2. The slow motion. Break up can be seen for some time, but only happens months after it should have. Just horrid to watch...

3. Declaration by Cheating. Need i say more?

4. Bouncy breakup. Break up, then get back together, or flirt with ex with regularity. Guilty parties may be sent to aformentioned circle of hell.

In each case, the pain came when the notifcation was untimely, or made cruelly. Breakups will hurt, but approach them like surgery. You have to be cruel to kind, but its no reason to just slice 'em up for the hell of it.

09-30-2003, 07:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
chavos Banned Location: St. Paul, MN	break up clearly, but with compassion. A few of my experiences, personal and observed: 1. The missing break up. One party fails to notify the other adequately that a break up has taken place. Very cruel. Deserving of a special ring of hell. 2. The slow motion. Break up can be seen for some time, but only happens months after it should have. Just horrid to watch... 3. Declaration by Cheating. Need i say more? 4. Bouncy breakup. Break up, then get back together, or flirt with ex with regularity. Guilty parties may be sent to aformentioned circle of hell. In each case, the pain came when the notifcation was untimely, or made cruelly. Breakups will hurt, but approach them like surgery. You have to be cruel to kind, but its no reason to just slice 'em up for the hell of it.