Amano

Here are some length "definitions." Like I said, I'm only referring to unwanted breakups, where it's the other person who initiated the breakup

1) a "gentle breakup" (eg. still making it clear that he/she still cares for you or wishes the breakup didn't have to happen, etc)

2) an "abrupt breakup" (eg. other person gets caught cheating, or says straight out "I'm seeing someone else" etc, basically something happens that tells you the other person simply doesn't care for you anymore)

Now I know there are situations where someone would say that he/she still cares for you but not really mean it, but on choice #1, I'm talking about as far as you can tell, he/she is being honest saying that. (eg. maybe something out of her control is causing the breakup, I don't know whatever it is, that he/she still really cares for you but has to break up anyway)


Personally, I've had two relationships end "gently." (2+ years, and 5 months). I took a *long* time to get over the first one (6+ months), and I got over the second one in slightly under 2 months. The second one was slightly more "gentle" than the first breakup, and I remember feeling absolutely horrible. At times, I wished that both were more "abrupt" as it would really help me see that things were over. Because if someone initiates a breakup but deep down wishes it didn't have to happen, I start to wonder, then why *did* it have to happen! And it gets really hard for me to get over something like that..

What do you all think?

PS. Any other suggestions for poll options?