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Originally posted by --jones--
There is a girl that i dated last year that is still crazy about me.
The difficult thing is that i feel for her and dont want to hurt her. She is the sweetest thing in the world and I wish i could date her but I'm at a point in my life where a girlfriend is not the best thing. I have told her this before but she dosent want to move on.
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I call these people stalkers.
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Originally posted by --jones--
To make things more difficult, i slept with her the othernight in a drunken episode.
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Bad move.
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Originally posted by --jones--
Keep in mind that I do have feelings for her but I dont want to date her and I realy dont want to hurt her. And I am pretty sure Im the first/only person she has been with.
How do I tell her to move on and get over me?
Thanks. [/B]
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I've had a couple of stalkers over the years. Probably the best thing to do is to find someone else that you can hook up with at a party or something. Then, get the stalker in a location where she can bump into you while you are making out.
This wouldn't be a good idea if she is really psycho and/or prone to violent fits. But it does get the message across.
The other time I had a stalker... I actually made friends with her and
Never Touched Her. I made rules for myself in dealing with her, because stalkers can be really pushy, manipulative and sneaky.
Some of my rules were/are:
1) No hanging out more than once in a week.
2) No talking about sex or having a sexual talk with her. (This does not exclude talking about your sexual relations with other girls... more later.)
3) Obviously no kissing... hugging -brief and light.
4) Absolutely minimize the inebriation around her.
5) Talk about your relationships with other women frequently... ask her advice on these relationships. (This is a good way of sensing her jealousy, and gauging her "stalkerness").
Best of Luck anyway because this is a delicate situation (and probably far more complicated than I'm giving credit for).