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Part of this is just the normal cycle of marriage - there's a joke that if you put a bean in a jar every time you have sex during the first year of marriage, and then take a bean out every time you have sex during the rest of your life, the jar will never get emptied. It's kind of a bleak assessment, but hey, it's just a joke.
However, there's some familiarization that does happen after that first year, and sometimes you just need to wait it out and see what happens. I think there's also something psychological that happens when you're married as opposed to just dating, it's like what sometimes happens after a woman has a kid - she becomes "mother" in her mind and in the man's, and sex just doesn't seem right. Maybe she's now "wife" in her mind, and that's somehow different to her than the supah freak girlfriend she used to be.
The best thing you can do is talk to her about this - tell her that you miss that side of her, see what she says about why it's disappeared. And try everything to break out of the routine - little things, like sex in different rooms of the house, food play (we've discovered that frozen grapes are yummy...and fun!), kick in a little romance or something - take her to a hotel with a huge jacuzzi tub and fill it with rose petals and surround it with candles. There's no reason you have to be condemned to vanilla June & Ward sex - just remember to talk about it and be creative your own self, and gently pull her along with you.
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