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jerseyboy · 09-26-2003, 09:24 PM

Background:
I am best friends with a girl, who obviously I completely adore. We have been friends since freshman year (we are now seniors), but you guessed it of course she has a boyfriend. About 2 weeks ago she tells me she and her bf (who I am somewhat friendly with) are having problems. Being the nice guy I am, I encouraged her to work it out with him. The next time I spoke to her, they were still together but things were definitely not solid between them.

The events of last night:
So last night my school sponsored a night out for all the seniors, and rented out an entire bar/club. I ran into my friend when entering the place but we shortly parted ways as we tend to hang out with different circles of friends. Later in the evening after the effects of alcohol had taken their toll on her we ran into each other again. She proceeded to throw her arm around me and ask me if I know how much she loves me and how I am her best friend at the school. She also tells me that she likes me as more than a friend and that her boyfriend knows that and doesnt care. We hung out for a while, took a shot together (I offered to pay for her but she insisted not) and danced for a little bit. For the most part her and her boyfriend did not hang out a lot during the evening.
Towards the end of the evening I went back to the people I had arrived at the event with and we got back on the buses our school had rented to get back to campus, she was sitting alone (he bf had left earlier to help out a friend who was having issues) and she invited me to sit with her. Being as it was late and she had had a little too much to drink, she was tired and leaned on me. I put my arm around her and just playingly tugged at one of her fingers. She returned the tug and then took my hand. While holding hands she fell asleep for the rest of the ride back to campus. When we got back to campus she gave me a hug we said good night and she went home with the friends she lived with.
This morning she IM's me and is extremely apologetic for her behaviour the night before (she always seems embarrassed to be drunk when I am around). I told her there was nothing she should be embarrassed about, and she says that she remembers most of the evening but a lot of it was a blur. She also thanks me for letting her lean against me when she fell alseep.

So here is where I need your help. What the hell is going on with this girl? Do you think the alcohol made her just say random things or did it just loosen her inhibitions so she would speak the truth more easily. Also whats up with the hand holding, was that just a product of the alcohol or did she really feel something. I am trying not to bee too excited about this, but after pining over this girl for 3 years its hard not to.

09-26-2003, 09:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
jerseyboy Insane	Oh so confusing women Background: I am best friends with a girl, who obviously I completely adore. We have been friends since freshman year (we are now seniors), but you guessed it of course she has a boyfriend. About 2 weeks ago she tells me she and her bf (who I am somewhat friendly with) are having problems. Being the nice guy I am, I encouraged her to work it out with him. The next time I spoke to her, they were still together but things were definitely not solid between them. The events of last night: So last night my school sponsored a night out for all the seniors, and rented out an entire bar/club. I ran into my friend when entering the place but we shortly parted ways as we tend to hang out with different circles of friends. Later in the evening after the effects of alcohol had taken their toll on her we ran into each other again. She proceeded to throw her arm around me and ask me if I know how much she loves me and how I am her best friend at the school. She also tells me that she likes me as more than a friend and that her boyfriend knows that and doesnt care. We hung out for a while, took a shot together (I offered to pay for her but she insisted not) and danced for a little bit. For the most part her and her boyfriend did not hang out a lot during the evening. Towards the end of the evening I went back to the people I had arrived at the event with and we got back on the buses our school had rented to get back to campus, she was sitting alone (he bf had left earlier to help out a friend who was having issues) and she invited me to sit with her. Being as it was late and she had had a little too much to drink, she was tired and leaned on me. I put my arm around her and just playingly tugged at one of her fingers. She returned the tug and then took my hand. While holding hands she fell asleep for the rest of the ride back to campus. When we got back to campus she gave me a hug we said good night and she went home with the friends she lived with. This morning she IM's me and is extremely apologetic for her behaviour the night before (she always seems embarrassed to be drunk when I am around). I told her there was nothing she should be embarrassed about, and she says that she remembers most of the evening but a lot of it was a blur. She also thanks me for letting her lean against me when she fell alseep. So here is where I need your help. What the hell is going on with this girl? Do you think the alcohol made her just say random things or did it just loosen her inhibitions so she would speak the truth more easily. Also whats up with the hand holding, was that just a product of the alcohol or did she really feel something. I am trying not to bee too excited about this, but after pining over this girl for 3 years its hard not to.