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Relationships are always undergoing transitions since we are never the same people in our lives. There was a time when I had good friends that I did things with early in our marriage. She had friends as well. We rarely did things with other couples as we rarely found a couple that we both really liked the other person (a common complaint from what I have heard). We moved so much early on that we really had to lean on each other. Now, we rarely go more than 2 hrs through a day without talking at least a couple of minutes. When she is gone, I feel like a large part of me is gone. This might not have happened if we had continued to live where we grew up. We have moved back now, but the time away was good. I guess I am saying that it depends on the circumstances. The more you become to each other, the less you need from others (although there are still some things my male friends can provide better than my wife, i.e. sports talk). This isn't easy to accomplish and in fact becomes more difficult the more you try to make it happen. Find common interests. Do more things together and eventually you will reach a nice middle ground wehre his going out with his friends won't bother you so much (and likely he won't want to go out with his friends as much). Getting older helps to as by that time most of your friends are married and have their own concerns.
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