Ack! Don't sit down and say the equivalent of "honey, I don't know how to say this, but you're packing on the pounds and I'm concerned." That's a one-way ticket to....somewhere bad. I'm all for honest communication in a relationship but there's a line you generally don't cross unless she has an iron-clad self-image, which most women do not.
Here's what you do - you said you're willing to work on your physique if she is, and you have the right idea when you talk about both of you going jogging or something...make this about you. Sit down and say, you know, I've been thinking about losing some weight, starting to exercise and change my diet, but I'm not sure I could do it by myself. Will you do it with me, and that way we can support each other and both be healthier? You don't have to go to the gym at the same time - just agree to embark on this process together, or join weight watchers together, or something. Say if you lose 40 lbs together you'll go on a fabulous vacation. Anything to not make it (only) about her. She'll probably get the hint (probably already has if you've been suggesting that she do more physical activities.) I think this is the ONLY chance you have (that I can think of) of suggesting that she lose some weight without actually telling her she's getting fat and you don't like it. If this fails, you might have to be blunt, but you'll also have to accept the consequences.
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