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Jim Kata · 09-24-2003, 05:30 AM

Sort of long, so turn back now if you don't want to waste your time.
So here is the situation. I need some advice. I love my girlfriend and plan on having the 2.5 kids and a white pickett fence and a lifetime of debt with her....but the problem is...she is putting on the pounds. She isn't HUGE, but she is a bit more than meaty. She used to be thin but recently it seems that she is getting bigger and bigger.
I know I'm not in the best of shape but I am willing to shed my belly and work on a better phisique if she is willing to as well (actually even if she isn't). But how do I tell her that without crushing her? I know it sounds shallow, but you know what...fuck it..I guess I am. I've always told her (since we started dating) that I don't want to be THAT couple with the fat girl and skinny guy (or vice versa).
I'm not asking her to be kate moss thin, but she could stand to drop 20-25 pounds. How do I put it to her delicately?
She is constantly munching on things and now that she is 21, started drinking beer on a regular basis which makes me more nervous about her weight.
I would offer going to a gym with her, but our schedules are so different (me working 2 jobs and going to school and her JUST going to school 2 days a week and 1 class for 1 hour on another 2 days), that I don't think it can be done.
Her friend started trying to get her to go to the gym with her during school and she was all excited about it, but that lasted one week.
When she was thin and asked if she was fat I would tell her no, and even if she was I couldn't tell her. But I would start saying that WE should go jogging or something if need be.
Well...recently I have been telling her that we need to do some physical activities but I'm getting no response.
Please give me some advice. I honestly see myself with her fat or not fat, but she is only 21 so that leaves plenty of more time for plenty of more weight. I can understand when she is like 35 or has some kids putting on a lot of weight and I am ready for that...but she is too young for it now.
PUH LEEEZE give me some advice.
Thanks in Advance.

09-24-2003, 05:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	Packin on the lbs. Sort of long, so turn back now if you don't want to waste your time. So here is the situation. I need some advice. I love my girlfriend and plan on having the 2.5 kids and a white pickett fence and a lifetime of debt with her....but the problem is...she is putting on the pounds. She isn't HUGE, but she is a bit more than meaty. She used to be thin but recently it seems that she is getting bigger and bigger. I know I'm not in the best of shape but I am willing to shed my belly and work on a better phisique if she is willing to as well (actually even if she isn't). But how do I tell her that without crushing her? I know it sounds shallow, but you know what...fuck it..I guess I am. I've always told her (since we started dating) that I don't want to be THAT couple with the fat girl and skinny guy (or vice versa). I'm not asking her to be kate moss thin, but she could stand to drop 20-25 pounds. How do I put it to her delicately? She is constantly munching on things and now that she is 21, started drinking beer on a regular basis which makes me more nervous about her weight. I would offer going to a gym with her, but our schedules are so different (me working 2 jobs and going to school and her JUST going to school 2 days a week and 1 class for 1 hour on another 2 days), that I don't think it can be done. Her friend started trying to get her to go to the gym with her during school and she was all excited about it, but that lasted one week. When she was thin and asked if she was fat I would tell her no, and even if she was I couldn't tell her. But I would start saying that WE should go jogging or something if need be. Well...recently I have been telling her that we need to do some physical activities but I'm getting no response. Please give me some advice. I honestly see myself with her fat or not fat, but she is only 21 so that leaves plenty of more time for plenty of more weight. I can understand when she is like 35 or has some kids putting on a lot of weight and I am ready for that...but she is too young for it now. PUH LEEEZE give me some advice. Thanks in Advance.